children?

[imarun10]

decisions on when to have children totally depends on a persons personality and lifestyle. some people, like myself, only want children if im financially and emotionally stable while others plan to marry young and just popping out kids.

i think that people should plan children more than they usually are. i know my parents had to drop out of college when they had me, and i feel bad that they had to make that choice but im glad im here!

[shady_aftermathzz]

If I got pregnant now (16)..i'd be freaked out n probly abort . But then again I wouldn't be stupid enough to get pregnant

ok but then again, stupidity is what a stupid does lmao, kiddin' *forest gump

i'd love to have kids once i get married, not before though...that'd prolly be at the age of 27-30 ish, ionno', ma parents had me when they were 18 n' 17

[Slimm]

I want kids around 30-35, but if it comes earlyer then so be it. I want to travel the world with my GF/wife before i want to think about kids, being free in what we do before. Im still young so i can't know when it will come, maybe it will come way before that, u cant plan it.

[*MIRANDA*]

i would like to have kids when im 24
i think thats a good age, i dont want to be this old parent
cause i want to see ma own kids get married and have kids
i dont think i would feel comfortable being like 50 when ma kids are in highschool or sumthing
i still want to be young enough to do stuff with them
i do want to travel allot befo i settle down with kids
so i got sum work to do the next 4 years lol
i dont think yo own life stops or something when you have kids
but you do have to consider anothers persons life a life that you helped create
so its not good to be selfish when you have kids, they should come befo anything
so i want to get it all out befo i have them
im not scared of having kids, although i think the responsibility will be the most scary thing
its not all about you anymore
i mean you are suppose to raise another human being,
and raise them the right way, to have their own strong opinions and views on things
but i think once you got them, it will all happen naturally
i am scared of the pain of giving birth but i think all woman are lol
but i think the feeling of being pregnant itself will be amazing cause
youll have sumthing inside you thats from you and the person you love and you created it together
so its special, you are carrying it with you.. i think it will be an amazing feeling

[$0 R3@L]

i would like to have kids when im 24
i think thats a good age, i dont want to be this old parent
cause i want to see ma own kids get married and have kids
i dont think i would feel comfortable being like 50 when ma kids are in highschool or sumthing
i still want to be young enough to do stuff with them
i do want to travel allot befo i settle down with kids
so i got sum work to do the next 4 years lol
i dont think yo own life stops or something when you have kids
but you do have to consider anothers persons life a life that you helped create
so its not good to be selfish when you have kids, they should come befo anything
so i want to get it all out befo i have them
im not scared of having kids, although i think the responsibility will be the most scary thing
its not all about you anymore
i mean you are suppose to raise another human being,
and raise them the right way, to have their own strong opinions and views on things
but i think once you got them, it will all happen naturally

same here,Prolly around 25ish for me too....gotta see the world a bit first but doesnt mean i cant do that with my family,infact that would prolly be an even better experience

[LoCoScousa]

I beleive children should never be planned.

If i have one with a woman, i have one... regardless of her not being wife material or even the nicest looking on the planet blah blah.

Everthing happens for a reason.

[James R.]

Parents had me when they were 21 and 22 and it worked out pretty well for them. They weren't really ready for a kid, but it made them snap out of being kids and brought them into being adults. I'd say anything under 21 would be too young because I severely doubt that you'll financially ready for a kid but once you hit 35 it gets to be dangerous for the woman to have kids and all kinda defects can happen. So 23-34 would be the best bet I'd guess.

[joelle]

Yeah it totally depends on a person, but I guess for the most of the people it's best to have kids when they're 25-30 years old. But if even if you have children when you are 16 you mustn't do abortion, cuz it's homicide. IF you got pregnant (or your girlfriend if you're a male) you must grow up to be a parent, no matter how old are you.

If I got pregnant now (16)..i'd be freaked out n probly abort .

Gahhhhh do you know what they do during an abortion?
They inject shit into your CERVIX to numb it, among other painful things...I couldn't get one even if I did believe in it. I don't understand how girls can get multiple abortions. Screw the morality of it..getting my uterus vacuumed out once would be enough to make me celibate for life.

[LoCoScousa]

Yeah it totally depends on a person, but I guess for the most of the people it's best to have kids when they're 25-30 years old. But if even if you have children when you are 16 you mustn't do abortion, cuz it's homicide. IF you got pregnant (or your girlfriend if you're a male) you must grow up to be a parent, no matter how old are you.

If I got pregnant now (16)..i'd be freaked out n probly abort .

Gahhhhh do you know what they do during an abortion?
They inject shit into your CERVIX to numb it, among other painful things...I couldn't get one even if I did believe in it. I don't understand how girls can get multiple abortions. Screw the morality of it..getting my uterus vacuumed out once would be enough to make me celibate for life.

Anyone that goes through with abortion unless it happens to be a rape case, deserves to be shot or be hung in thier towns square, if people feel that is to crude or overpowering then i wouldn't over look prison for it either.
Only because your taking the life of a child within you so its like taking your own as the life is/was attached to you when/if the abortion process takes place.
Might sound nasty, but i am totally against abortion even though i know what it can cause if it is outlawed in certain if not all places.

would be enough to make me celibate for life

If a woman in my life went through with it, (knowing i would try and stop her, unknowing and i found out, then i would never have anything to do with her again.) i would do the same even though i would have never gone through the pain staking process, only because i wouldn't have no woman do it to me again.
It would take alot of trust to make sure that it wouldn't happen twice, but then that would come down to planning a child in a way and i don't beleive in that as i think a child should be conceive out of love/truelove.

[James R.]

I agree with you, although the town square would be a little difficult to pull off these days. But I agree that there's no need for abortion. But out of curiosity why are you against planning for a baby? Like I think that conceiving a baby out of love is romantic but if you're planning to have a kid then doesn't that kind of infer that love is there? Do you mean planning like making a plan for the child literally or planning as in just trying for a baby once you've reached a certain spot in your life?

[joelle]

Loco - just to clarify, I'm as against abortion as you are, and would never ever get one, and I lose respect for those that do (except, obviously, in extreme situations, beyond the mundane "oops, the condom broke, not my fault").

[LoCoScousa]

Nah man am not against it, I just believe it should be a surprise to find out you have a child on the way, whether your in a stable or unstable relationship, it give life essence in a way.
Don't get me wrong, its not like i haven't or wouldn't talk about babies with my partner and wonder between us what to call our children if we had any, but really all that should be left up until nature takes its course inside a womans womb.
(Plus when ever i plan something, the opposite tends to happen.)

I agree with what your saying Joelle, but in life i think everything happens for a reason, for the condom to split could mean this is your moment in life to take it to the next level.
Either that or the person in question is just to rough, but that would be their fault in a way as we know of the dangers in just using a condom for contraception.
(Although a lot of peoples memory's need to be refreshed on these issues to make it known, if not teach people that are unbeknown to the dangers of long hard sex, if you get me.)

[James R.]

Ok I can understand what you mean.

[shady4life!]

This is pretty strange but there is a girl in my class who is going to get married at next year when she is 17, and the guy she is marryin is like 11 years older than her and i doubt she knows her very well and is very close. Just someone that their parents had assigned....But that aint wat really suprised me, its just the thot of gettin married at 16 or 17ish is just wack. U miss out all of ur single life and are forced to be devoted to one person for nearly ur whole entire life. Wat a bummer...really feel sorry for her

I wud say the best time to get married is 30, maybe 28 at earliest so u can enjoy ur freedom and not only be stuck on just one person. yad dig

[ctodap]

omg.. therez this gurl in my geography class.. nd she was like how her mom was 16 wen she had her nd now shez 30.. i was like woah...buh nywaiz.. in science we learned how wen u get old itz bad for u to have a baby kus.. all the bad stuff goes into ur body hase a higher chance of going into the child.. kausin problems for the kid