DATING and sexual morality

by **> Evil _ MoNkEy <** » Apr 18th, '06, 22:56

online dating is a trend? wtf?!... i didnt ever have an internet connection till late december this last year..... and i didnt get on looking for a relationship... i got on wantin sumone to talk to cus i was bored cus my best friend was spendin new years with her boyfriend..... never in a million stinkin years did i think wat happened would happen...... but its a trend? goddamnitt...... i wonder if thats wat he thinks it is.... like its just cool cus now everyone is "doing it" :angry:

y me god?

but um.... ya, sorry... to answer the question..... um.... i was alwayz taught to wait till marriage....... but um, i do understand that it is hard to wait.... and i dont really think for me there would be a right time at all..... cus for various reasons i have stated in other topics..... i have a phobia of sex.... so um... it may take years for me to feel im comfortable with the person enough to indulge in the pleasure of the flesh..... i know that we have to be serious... and nuthin untill were at leaste talkin about marriage and havin a life together..... but i think u should be together long term (wen ur young newayz... devorced, uve been there, dun that) and make sure ur really serious and a good match for each other before considering the possability of having sex.... cus it could be the biggest mistake of ur life.... and i remember in school, a woman came to our school to talk to us, and we had an abstanance assembly... and she said, and i will never forget this..... wen u have sex with sumone, its like takin a fresh peice of duck tape and stickin it on ur arm, then pullin it off..... and theres a bunch of stuff on the tape.... but the more u pass that tape around to different people, and they stick it on there arm (having sex with them) eventually the tape gets so dirty that nuthing sticks....... i only wanna be with one man (consentually.... i guess its a bit too late for me with the other things that happened) my whole life.... so if i fuck up.... well..... im screwed.......

by **> Evil _ MoNkEy <** » Apr 18th, '06, 23:17

memyselforwho wrote:i appreciate you answering, i thout no one would because the length of it, i understand, but ummm abstanance is to late for todays youth, like every girl i know lost virginity at 12!!! its horrible, anyway, i disagree about the wait till marrige, but agree on the part about makin sure your comapatible

lmao... ya... it was long... but worth the read.. i thought it was well written and put together :worship:

..... and i know wat u mean, about girls losing virginity so young... and its a shame... cus i know a lot of girls like that..... but ya, abstinacne is just about impossable for sum ppl... and it really is hard for todays youth the way the media hyps up sex and all the imagry used to sell products.... i mean.. todays society is over sexed... and it largely started in a merica..... but thanks to imperialism and marketing in other countries..... i guess u could say america has had a bad influence on the world......

by **> Evil _ MoNkEy <** » Apr 18th, '06, 23:47

wow...... that was like....... did u write that urself? or did u copy and paste from another source? :unsure:

either way, that was very well put..... and very true...... and i know the statistics about teen pregnancy, and i know that its largely based upon those factors... and it is a shame.... and i do know that that is a main cause of abortion.... here in the states and in other countries as well......

Timkin Sr. Highschool (the school i would have went.... both of my sisters went there, its in Canton) made national headlines this year..... 13% of the girls in the school were pregnant, i forget wat the fraction was..... but it was an overwhelming number..... its an inner city school, and as u know... most kids who go to inner city schools deal with poverty and gross undereduacation.... so, its just proof that the statistics r true...... and the reason it made headlines, was becus the princible or head of school board (i forget wich) said that it wasnt a big deal..... but, there r a lot of other issues with inner city schools such as gangs, guns and violence, and drugs..... and its just a shame, cus its not just the highschools nemore..... its also the middle and elementry schools...

by **> Evil _ MoNkEy <** » Apr 19th, '06, 00:37

its not too late.... but it appears that way... it wouldnt be if the government would step in and do sumthin, wich i havent seen them.... but theyr too bussy fighting wars and tryin to save the world to deal with their OWN problems

by **axgt_marc** » Apr 19th, '06, 15:06

Sarah wrote:I don't agree with the wait until marriage thing. But......I don't know what am I meant to be explainin?

*checks*

Ohh, how many dates do you think it takes? Well um....thats hard to answer. For some people it could be one of the first people they've dated, and others could go through tons of bf's/gf's until they meet the right person...

Hope that was what I was meant to explain

I dont agree with the marriage thing either, but I think you need to be AT LEAST 16. I think 16 is still very young. Most young people are just experimenting, and want to do things because they look cool. Alot of girls do it to make guys like them and are shocked when it doesnt work, because guys dont respect girls that sleep around!

Girls usualy go for older guys too, who easily influence them and get what they want.

by **Ivy** » Apr 19th, '06, 18:54

I agree with Anna, I never intended going online to look for an internet relationship, but life is full of suprises, and I met someone really special. I came on in December during Christmas and New Year's break, just wanting to talk with some people. I met someone, we started talking, and now it's 4 months later, and we're still together and talk regularly. Sure, it's difficult being seperated and living in seperate areas, but we make it work. I don't regret it one bit. However, a lot of people I know, family and friends, not knowing about my relationship, talk about all the freaks and petifilers on the internet and how people need to avoid chatrooms. Some people plan to meet someone online, some it was just chance. Sure, there are a lot of internet psychos and sickos, sex addicts and petifilers, but that's not everyone. You have those who are quite intelligent, and caring, and all that, and are perfect for a relationship.

Now, with parents and communities chosing a partner for a teen or woman, wtf? I like where I live, you choose your own partner and you decide when you want to marry, if it's after a few dates, let's just hope it works out or that the relationship is that strong, and if it's after a few years, that's when they decide to marry. I'm glad I'm in a Western Society and all that, I'm not ashamed of it, especially when it comes to couples and shit. However, Western societies do have a lot of failed marriages and all that, but I guess you have to see through all the negative shit, and search for the positive. You know?!!!!!!!!!!!? :flower:

by **> Evil _ MoNkEy <** » Apr 20th, '06, 05:02

TaylorakaTiGGi wrote:I agree with Anna, I never intended going online to look for an internet relationship, but life is full of suprises, and I met someone really special. I came on in December during Christmas and New Year's break, just wanting to talk with some people. I met someone, we started talking, and now it's 4 months later, and we're still together and talk regularly. Sure, it's difficult being seperated and living in seperate areas, but we make it work. I don't regret it one bit. However, a lot of people I know, family and friends, not knowing about my relationship, talk about all the freaks and petifilers on the internet and how people need to avoid chatrooms. Some people plan to meet someone online, some it was just chance. Sure, there are a lot of internet psychos and sickos, sex addicts and petifilers, but that's not everyone. You have those who are quite intelligent, and caring, and all that, and are perfect for a relationship.

omg!..... u started dating nick on winter break too? wow, lol.... me and bossman will be 4 months on the 10th :wub:

and my grandma worries about me, cus of all the petafiles and such... but surprisingly, my parents r prety cool with it, cus u know... theyv seen him on web cam and i tell them stuff........ but, i dont feel so weird or pathetic nemore....... :happy:

but he said that its good cus u get to know sumone for who they r, not theyr looks, and i really do think that makes it kinda fool proof... but like u said, and i know.... bein so far apart is hard, but im gonna be 18 in 7 months, u know... so i can basicly do wat i want.... its a 15 hour drive..... wen i get a car, i can drive to see him.... bein legals gonna rock :rock:

.... but u got a couple years to go till ur 18..... right? :unsure:

newayz.... just... i do agree, life is full of surprises, lol..... but some of the best things in life happen by accidents and surprise :wub:

by **Ivy** » Apr 20th, '06, 16:23

> Evil _ MoNkEy < wrote:omg!..... u started dating nick on winter break too? wow, lol.... me and bossman will be 4 months on the 10th and my grandma worries about me, cus of all the petafiles and such... but surprisingly, my parents r prety cool with it, cus u know... theyv seen him on web cam and i tell them stuff........ but, i dont feel so weird or pathetic nemore....... but he said that its good cus u get to know sumone for who they r, not theyr looks, and i really do think that makes it kinda fool proof... but like u said, and i know.... bein so far apart is hard, but im gonna be 18 in 7 months, u know... so i can basicly do wat i want.... its a 15 hour drive..... wen i get a car, i can drive to see him.... bein legals gonna rock .... but u got a couple years to go till ur 18..... right? newayz.... just... i do agree, life is full of surprises, lol..... but some of the best things in life happen by accidents and surprise

My drive will only be like 10 hours and like 38 minutes if I remember correctly. And yeah, it sucks, I've got two years before I'm 18, and they will either drag on some days or go by fast on others, ya know?!? And you're quite right, the best things in life, happen by accidents and suprises, and it's a mystery how everything evolved. I don't remember the exact date when me and my bf met, but I remember it had to be either from December 22 through January 2. So sometime around then, however, I do remember how we met. It was something quite simple that we met over and I would have never thought it'd become this how it is today. Sometimes I think it's a big dream, and that I'll just wake up and be alone. You know?!? I'm glad it's not though, things have done a complete three sixty since we met, and it's for the better. I don't go through my depression spells as much, and he encourages me to eat and try and get through my problems the right way. :flower:

by **> Evil _ MoNkEy <** » Apr 20th, '06, 16:45

TaylorakaTiGGi wrote:
> Evil _ MoNkEy < wrote:omg!..... u started dating nick on winter break too? wow, lol.... me and bossman will be 4 months on the 10th and my grandma worries about me, cus of all the petafiles and such... but surprisingly, my parents r prety cool with it, cus u know... theyv seen him on web cam and i tell them stuff........ but, i dont feel so weird or pathetic nemore....... but he said that its good cus u get to know sumone for who they r, not theyr looks, and i really do think that makes it kinda fool proof... but like u said, and i know.... bein so far apart is hard, but im gonna be 18 in 7 months, u know... so i can basicly do wat i want.... its a 15 hour drive..... wen i get a car, i can drive to see him.... bein legals gonna rock .... but u got a couple years to go till ur 18..... right? newayz.... just... i do agree, life is full of surprises, lol..... but some of the best things in life happen by accidents and surprise

My drive will only be like 10 hours and like 38 minutes if I remember correctly. And yeah, it sucks, I've got two years before I'm 18, and they will either drag on some days or go by fast on others, ya know?!? And you're quite right, the best things in life, happen by accidents and suprises, and it's a mystery how everything evolved. I don't remember the exact date when me and my bf met, but I remember it had to be either from December 22 through January 2. So sometime around then, however, I do remember how we met. It was something quite simple that we met over and I would have never thought it'd become this how it is today. Sometimes I think it's a big dream, and that I'll just wake up and be alone. You know?!? I'm glad it's not though, things have done a complete three sixty since we met, and it's for the better. I don't go through my depression spells as much, and he encourages me to eat and try and get through my problems the right way.

aww... im sorry hon, i know wat u mean about how the day drags on and sum days and flys by....... but its good that he supports u......

i remember how me and bossman met... i remember everything......

it was new years night, and i had just gotten a lap top from my friend susan like, 2 weeks b4..... and i was online, and i decided since i was so bored (susan was spending the weekend with her bf) and i remember the name of the chatroom, it was AOL Townsquare: Lonely..... and i remember i was in there, and there really wasnt too much goin on, and a bunch of pervs IMed me.... but then, i remeber seeing him.... and i think he said sumthin like, 17/m/KS IM to chat.... it was sumthin like that.... and i just remember goin "Ooo! I wanna talk to him....." wat can i say, he has a catchy sn, lol :wub:

but newayz.... things didnt start out too smooth, and i thought i had made a complete ass outta myself... but, u know... the more we started talkin..... we liked the same music, scarey movies...... and it was just like... wow..... and as he once said, "he so totaly fell for me" :wub:

but i think the swords r wat got me..... im just like.... "that is so awsum" .... but um... ya..... newayz, we talked till late, and he asked... r we gonna talk after tonight, and im like... ya...... and it was just....... :wub:

i love him so much...... and i miss him...... i barely talk to him nemore...... but i love him so much :'(

dammit.... i just had to go and think about him... again... now i have to go up in my room and cry... again... im sorry, excuse me a minit

by **$0 R3@L** » Apr 20th, '06, 21:15

online dating is for guys and gals who aint got the guts or looks to approach real people....hey like our friend ggggunot.

by **Ivy** » Apr 20th, '06, 21:19

$0 R3@L wrote:online dating is for guys and gals who aint got the guts or looks to approach real people....hey like our friend ggggunot.

Well I guess I don't got the looks or the guts then... :unsure:

by **$0 R3@L** » Apr 20th, '06, 21:23

i mean if u date online how do you intend to get intimate with the person.....email a kiss....upload a fuck?????

by **Ivy** » Apr 20th, '06, 21:26

$0 R3@L wrote:i mean if u date online how do you intend to get intimate with the person.....email a kiss....upload a fuck?????

You got a point, I can't explain anything. I don't know how to put it into words or anything, so I'll just keep shut. :flower:

by **ThomasAguanis** » Apr 20th, '06, 21:29

$0 R3@L wrote:i mean if u date online how do you intend to get intimate with the person.....email a kiss....upload a fuck?????

hahahaha that seriously made me laugh

but online dating(from what it seems like..i never did it) is more about telling someone your problems and having someone to talk to when you need to.(basically the same as a real relationship but not in person) i'll still say as mostly everyone would that real relationships are much better/rewarding

by **$0 R3@L** » Apr 20th, '06, 21:31

ThomasAguanis wrote:
$0 R3@L wrote:i mean if u date online how do you intend to get intimate with the person.....email a kiss....upload a fuck?????

hahahaha that seriously made me laugh

but online dating(from what it seems like..i never did it) is more about telling someone your problems and having someone to talk to when you need to.(basically the same as a real relationship but not in person) i'll still say as mostly everyone would that real relationships are much better/rewarding

what you described was a online friendship not a intimate one....to get intimate you need some ass and boobies...all you will get on here is megabytes and viruses

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