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Postby dookie » Jun 3rd, '07, 12:38

when is it right to have em? when is it too old? when is it too young, when are u planning to have em? are u ?
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Re: children?

Postby C-Game » Jun 3rd, '07, 12:44

umm 30 is da best age for a guy ... coz by that time ull be established with a good earning job...

damn another 6 years to go :whistle:
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Postby ,-,'-{Bar}-',-, » Jun 3rd, '07, 12:49

i aint ever thought about to old :sweating:

to young depends on the person :unsure:


but myself id want kids around 25-27 :sweating:
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Postby AspirinE » Jun 3rd, '07, 14:12

My parents had me at 21 ... big mistake they got devorced when i was only 2.
But my mother wouldve been about 41 now and my father is 42 ... so they are relatively young parents. I would in no case prefer to have 60 year olds for parents.


24 is the optimum age to me to get one of them babies ready, i have 3 years to go lol. To be honest though im not so scared of the thought of being a father, i think it gives a whole 'nother reason to life, its just hard to provide and ensure that kid gets the best life possible.
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Postby 4D » Jun 3rd, '07, 14:25

I was 21 when I became a dad, and was never really considering being a father, not that it was an accident, because I was very happy in my relationship, so was not bothering with safety, if it happened it happened, and it happened. I wasn't sure, if I'd be a good dad or not, but I gotta say it comes very naturally, well to me it did anyway. You will never ever feel the emotions for anyone else that you do for your kids, it's the warmest feeling there is. I`m constantly hugging and kissing them, it's rediculous. Don't get me wrong there are hard times too, like paying bills and putting food on the table, but having kids isn't that more expensive than being single, the only difference is, you have to hold down your job, you got to be responsible. But our family of 5, live comfortably on one wage, and we never stress out too bad about bills, we're very easy-going like that.

I would say between 23 and 28 is the best time-frame to have kids, because not everyone is like me, and can cope with having kids at 21. And you don't want to be leaving it too late either, because then you're kind of under pressure to meet a person you would have kids with. And complications can come into pregnancies the closer you get to forty.
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Postby ,-,'-{Bar}-',-, » Jun 3rd, '07, 14:34

4D wrote:I would say between 23 and 28 is the best time-frame to have kids, because not everyone is like me, and can cope with having kids at 21. And you don't want to be leaving it too late either, because then you're kind of under pressure to meet a person you would have kids with. And complications can come into pregnancies the closer you get to forty.


i agree wiht not leaving it to late, if you have kids were when there 10 you 40, you probably goin to miss out on taking him to the park playing football, coz you just not goin to have the energy or be young enough to run aroung the park for 3 hours with your kids, thats the stuff id never wanne miss out on, obviously health comes into that but the point is the same lol

my dad had a kid 2 years ago (i think) when hes ten my dad will be 48 or 49 :sweating: thats somehting id never want lol
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Postby 4D » Jun 3rd, '07, 14:56

yeah exactly, even though 48 or 49 is not that old, but once you get into your fifties, and your kids are only coming into adolescence, it's gonna be harder than if would if you were younger. But, it's not the same for everyone, some men become better fathers as they mature, and can invest more time in their kids, without all the immaturity of wanting to go clubbing and going out with the lads.
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Postby DrRapid » Jun 3rd, '07, 18:14

My mum had me when she was 34. Now she's 48 and i'm 13. My dad's 50. It wasn't late for pregnancy because now a days there's a lot of people (specially in Spain) who have their children at their early 30's.

I think that the earliest you can get to have a baby is at 24 (somewhere round there) but if you are prepared to have a baby earlier than that then there's no harm.
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Postby joelle » Jun 3rd, '07, 18:57

I want kids one day, but I'm not even gonna think about having them till I have graduated college and have a good job/am with someone who has a good job. I think 22 or 23 to 28 or 29 is a good range. Of course it all depends.
My aunt had her baby in her early 40s, and now my baby cousin has a brother that's 15 years older than her...that's not so cool. Plus with all the complications that come with pregnancy the older you get, I wouldn't want a baby past like 33ish...of course, I wouldn't want one now either.
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Postby D@vid » Jun 3rd, '07, 21:52

under 24=too young, not sure whats goin on in ur own life usually, and u still kinda wanna party

25-30= perfect time, especially for a man. but if ur gonna have several kids for sure, then i would start earlier, then have one about every year or two



i think id want at least two kids. def no more than 4, cuz i see how hard it is with my family. i have some friends of a family where theres like 18 brothers and sisters, which is def too many. seems almost unfair to have that many kids. nobody in the family is really all that happy from what i see. but its all cool, as long as u can provide for the kids. they're actually gonna be on a tv show for the number of kids they have i guess
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Postby sinemm » Jun 6th, '07, 07:34

having kids in a very early age isnt good i think cuz i dont know u shud live ur young n good days..to old isnt good too cuz it can be hard sometimes like a kid 10 years old her/his mom/dad are in their 40-45's..right time is when you feel ready for kids and..cuz its a big responsiblity..
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Postby slimtrop1 » Jun 9th, '07, 01:07

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Postby Shadyluva » Jun 9th, '07, 01:09

i wanna have kids like by aqe 23-24..or atleast be married by then =]
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Postby Golden » Jun 9th, '07, 19:25

I think i depends on the person, some people are mature and/or ready when theyre young. some people aren`t.
And like 4D says, when u do get kids u gonne love `em like hell. And i think young people grows with the "job".
My girlfriend is pregnent now and i can`t wait. And allthought i don`t have a higher education or anything, i know that things will work out fine.
I`vee been through beeing fuckin` afraid, don`t wanting no kid and so on ,last time she was pregnant.
And like 4D said you can`t compare that feeling u feel when u see ur kid for the first time with anything. Some people would say im to young, but i know with myself i can do it.
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Postby vermin » Jun 13th, '07, 01:16

Yeah it totally depends on a person, but I guess for the most of the people it's best to have kids when they're 25-30 years old. But if even if you have children when you are 16 you mustn't do abortion, cuz it's homicide. IF you got pregnant (or your girlfriend if you're a male) you must grow up to be a parent, no matter how old are you.
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