Giving up your dreams and aspirations

[mcZu]

''Yesterday is the past, tomorrow a mystery. Today is just a gift, hence it's called the present.''

Bottom line is, you never know when your time is up. So you should take the little time that you have and cherish it. Live like today is your last, 'cause tomorrow just isn't promised.. but yet you should try to keep the day after tomorrow in mind.

It's all about balance. If you have certain dreams and aspirations, you should try to keep reality in mind. Persue your dreams, but expect the worst.

Get married, have kids, and besides all that you can still try to achieve your goals. Because if you shut out the one, the other will be all you have leaving you with nothing to fall back on.

It's healthy to have dreams/goals/aspirations, however, you can't dismiss reality. Best thing to do, is to try to create a realistic world where you have the chance to persue your dreams.

[Joe M]

but how can you do that? how can you tell the differnence between being optimistic and determined to simply being deluded? like if some dude wants to be a rapper, he makes shit and people tell him it's no good. how is he to know to either persevere or to give up?

[Kez]

An interesting question.

I suppose it all depends on how much you are willing to risk and how much you believe in it.

Back when i was younger i wanted to be a big, famous rapper; but after a couple of years i realised it probably wouldn't happen, so i just sort of dumbed my dream down to be to just make the best music i can, and if there's people that like it then that works for me.

Then again, considering i was young maybe that's not my life dream. Maybe i haven't decided yet.

But for those who will actually chase their dreams i admire them.

[Joe M]

^so when did you start to think you weren't gonna be a 'famous' rapper? like what was it that made you start thinking like it would never happen?

[emzee-frenzy]

gravity has an essential role in this i think, because if youre hopes and dreams etc, are hish as planes, they just gonna crash-land if you realize they just had too much weight, but if theyre high as satellites, well damn, you get to orbit around the world all your life in search for oportunities.
i don't know if it was the best comparision, but you got the point, you shoul keep your dreams on a steady course and watch for obstacles, when i was little i use to dream about being a rapper just like Eminem =)), but that isnt gonna happen, now i just want to go to a good college and have a steady job, and maybe make something out of writing like novels or idk, but who knows what the future has in store

[Kez]

^so when did you start to think you weren't gonna be a 'famous' rapper? like what was it that made you start thinking like it would never happen?

I wouldn't say i've given up rap completely; all i mean is that i'm not relying on it as my main way of surviving in life, because the chances of it happening are slim.

[Ella]

ive realised the only way u can really follow ur dreams or w/e is if u know someone that knows someone blah blah.. doing things on ur own is hard & most likely will end up failing.. right ?
unless u filthy rich.. thats why imma stop thinking 5 years ahead or w/e.. keeping my hopes
up is sad & fustrating

[AOBrien09]

Well a see it as, life is a fight and a fight always has a winner and a loser, but the one who fights the hardest will prevail. seriously though it's a shit feelin knowin you can't move forward or do any better(progress) and the moment thats how I feel .

[DrRapid]

Y'all probably ain't bothered to read this but I'll still write it up...

I used to have the dream of being a professional basketball player. It may sound silly just like the "I want to be a super star" but I was motivated to be one. I was about 10 or so and that was my goal. I'd been asked to play for a federation which tries to perfection the player's skill. Something which not anyone could get, only players who seemed to have some, what's the word, caliber? I improved a lot there and I was asked to train a few days for Barça (incredibly good team) but I was still too young to go. Then I was asked to train a day with Juventut which is another incredibly good team in Spain and in Europe in general. They showed a lot of interest in me but eventually didn't ask me to join.

After that I had the chance to join 2 other teams which were still of the very best in the Barcelona area. One of them was the team which used to have Los Angeles Lakers player Pau Gasol in his teens. I had the chance but I said no. And that was me giving up a dream.

I realised that it wasn't really what I wanted, basketball isn't a passion, but a hobby almost. A sport I love. Going to such team meant sacrifice and at the age of 11 I wasn't willing to do so, for it to interfere with other things in my life. It meant having to travel further away almost every day just to play with them, that's one. Leaving my friends behind a bit, that's two. But there were many others and I wasn't prepared. I was young (not that I'm not right now). So it was obvious it wasn't a dream anymore, if I wasn't joining such team then it obviously meant that it wasn't a dream. I gave it up.

People always tell me that one day in the future they'll be able to see me on TV but that's not going to happen. I gave up my chances and now at the age of 16 it feels a little late. It is in some ways. Though I did realise after 4 years that maybe I still have some chances. I got asked to play for a reasonably good team this year which is in a higher competition. I'm not aiming for the best but if chance ever happens I think I might take it now.

[Wallace]

Actually your post was cool Rapid. The problem in tryin somethin' like gettin in a sport team is big. You need too much effort, and some luck too. But if you get.. money comes

I was never the type of guy who wanted somethin big in life. I just wanted to live in a calm, distant place like a farm, workin on my own' with a female till death. My parents want me to be promoter or judge, som'thin' like this in Justice... i used to think it was good, but studin 14 years (since I was 4) non-stop got me very bored and made me feel very tired of this. I need to clear some things up before I decide to continue... for now, i gotta give up my dream and wait too much til bein able to work and get what I want from my own effort, but i'm still in big advantage... compared to people on my class, some of them with like 40 or 50 years old, I'm very lucky bein only 18 Years Old. I gotta say that this dream is the meaning of my life, is what I always think about when I'm givin up. And i will never give up this, if it happen, I ll have no more reason to live