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[Guess_Who]

I really have to get this off my chest...what's the deal with British people and funny hats?





It's not like they look good. They can't be all that comfortable. They're just weird. So why?

I think it's just a thing the bourgeoisie does. Like here in Belgium, there's this annual horse race and all the rich people go to the race to show of their unique/expensive hats. I don't see the appeal either.

No offense to the British but I always found that sooo ridiculous....if you want to see the more extravagant hats just search in google Ascot hats..

http://nicefun.net/userpix4/TheWild_wac ... 828_00.jpg
http://media-saver.com/wp-content/uploa ... =500&h=354

I understand the Ascot hats are somehow a joke, but the ornaments they wear to the weddings are for real...how can someone like this?
http://www.jointventurejewelry.com/blog ... nators.jpg

[Wreck]

Worst fucking night ever. Done w/ people & their bullshit. Not going to fucking court but my psycho Dad thinks it's ok to put me in the middle of bullshit that involves HIM, NOT ME, keywords. Fuckin done & emotionally drained. Then he has the fucking nerve to get mad at me for stupid bullshit that I should of told him earlier that I didn't wanna go to court for him tomorrow or get in the middle of the shit to begin with. I don't have to, he doesn't need me, I don't see why he thinks he does though. Maybe because he's a fucking retard.

Here's the thing. You have control of the people in your life.

You can put up with it, or you can excuse yourself, say "got to go work on something - talk to you later". Or just walk on and say nothing.

Remember, your parents have issues to - alot of them. Sometimes, when you just don't know what to say to them but they are just so.. ergghhh! Do ... what needs to be done. Step up, and be the parent for just a moment. "Go up to them, and give them a lingering hug - quietly saying, I love you".

Understand, I'm 50 and have 5 daughters. Been through hell and back in my life. As tough as I am, or seem to be - life often just gets so overwhelming I can't deal or don't know how. And just because we are older, well that means nothing. We are just like you but.. yeah - older.

And we often take our frustration out on those we love without meaning to.

But do understand, there is the difference between being there for someone an enabling them. I used to enable my ex way too much. Bailing him out, picking him up from jail, paying his stupid fines and such.

He stepped over the line once and I really did not want to hurt him - but sometimes you have to just do what needs to be done. I revoked his bail and paid for them to come get him. I could no longer take his behavior in MY home.

Talk with - not to. Have a dialogue and not a monologue and if they get loud or irritated - simply quiet - look at your hands (fold them infront of you) and simply wait for their tangent to end.

Learn to not take their anger personal. They have issues they sincerely need to work with and over come. When my daughters get angry and lash out at me, I am mature enough to ignore the acutal words and meaning and understand them as a 'symptom' instead. Something wrong in their life, they can't deal with - and need if anything.... my understanding, support.

But - if they abuse it - I do ignore, and decide to not do them any favors for their disrespect.

Peace out and good luck w/ it.

Thanks for the help Doodlebug, appreciate it. The thingi s, he has a lot of mental problems, & he's said a lot of sick shit to me over the years, well in more recent years, but he had a drug problem for many years, & he's immature on top of his anger/craziness. I get fed up with it. He's also bi-polar. It's insane.

[Doodlebug]

Thanks for the help Doodlebug, appreciate it. The thingi s, he has a lot of mental problems, & he's said a lot of sick shit to me over the years, well in more recent years, but he had a drug problem for many years, & he's immature on top of his anger/craziness. I get fed up with it. He's also bi-polar. It's insane.

Eventually, you should try to get some distance from him. People like this -need- to hold on to others, to control them. It gives their life meaning.

You almost defined my mom there. Bi-polar and manic. At 18 I joined the military, and thought I had found freedom, but she used my siblings to try to lure me back.

I decided, it was me or them ... The years w/o all of that were nice, and I found that even trying to say HI - gave them approval to start up again - so I couldn't.

My mother wanted to come up this way to visit, me - my 2 sisters who live in my state and I had to say no. I could not have her around my daughters - ever.

She went back home - and shortly thereafter got that bacterial infection and was in the hospital a week then died. The way I felt - it tore me apart.

But, I know now that even in death, I gave her the ability to puppet my emotions... I did.. I felt as if I should of let her visit... but we both know in retrospect that would of not ended well.

And now?

I've discovered recently I have about a 80% + hearing loss in my left ear. She used to hit me in the ears all the time - you know, bruises that are not so obvious.

I'm torn between hate and anger. See, their abuse - just when you fricking think you are free of it? It's there. In your nightmares, and later - like with me. It ripples over time.

This type of person - what do you sincerely owe them? Because I gave them 18 year of hell and even after all of that - sent them $$ none stop for four years they only used on drugs and booze and not for my siblings.

Wake up.... if this was not your parent - would they be in your life? So.. your response is?

People such as this, won't ever change and if you confront them? Your only going to be the reason, the blame - or they will deny it and say you have a faulty memory.

Strength is often found when you are on your knees... and you have to decide - how is this all going to play out.

I'm 50 ... I thought the abuse was over and I was free from it. It's never over. So decide, how much more you are going to stand there and take - or plan on how to slowly move away - when you can.

We can love someone but not hand them our future ... you know?

[SajN]

Isn't Netherlands nice though?

[EG.]

^ whole of Europe is sucking Germany's balls.

[Trimss]

^ whole of Europe is sucking Germany's balls.

I would too, if it was 40/45.

[EG.]

^ whole of Europe is sucking Germany's balls.

I would too, if it was 40/45.

There's war now too

[Guess_Who]

^ whole of Europe is sucking Germany's balls.

Yeah, but ironically Merkel is a woman. So maybe suck balls is not the most suitable expression in this case.

[Slimm]

No it sucks, the weather sucks, the government sucks the balls of germany... the people are cheap assholes who listen to dutch country kinda shit , everyone is full of bullshit talking big shit while they been trough nothing at all. Back to ill mind 5 to cool down

Angsty teenager detected. How old are you, 12?

[Slimm]

No it sucks, the weather sucks, the government sucks the balls of germany... the people are cheap assholes who listen to dutch country kinda shit , everyone is full of bullshit talking big shit while they been trough nothing at all. Back to ill mind 5 to cool down

Angsty teenager detected. How old are you, 12?

17, and what does that have to do with anything. Does ranting about your country have an age restriction?

It does not. It's just that you probably have no knowledge of national nor international politics, thus making bold statements like that makes you look silly.

[Eedee]

So I went to the post office today and I pulled up, and the lady in the car next to me looked like she was napping. Head laid back against the seat. But she had a faint blue streak across her cheek. I couldn't see breathing. I thought "holy shit, she might've had a stroke". She was alone in the car and it's 7pm, she's the only one in the parking lot besides me. I had my phone out ready to dial 911 when I tapped on her window. She woke up. I asked her if she's okay and she was just taking a nap...

Holy fuck.

[Emadyville]

So I went to the post office today and I pulled up, and the lady in the car next to me looked like she was napping. Head laid back against the seat. But she had a faint blue streak across her cheek. I couldn't see breathing. I thought "holy shit, she might've had a stroke". She was alone in the car and it's 7pm, she's the only one in the parking lot besides me. I had my phone out ready to dial 911 when I tapped on her window. She woke up. I asked her if she's okay and she was just taking a nap...

Holy fuck.

I mean, mailing a letter is pretty difficult these days

Crazy lady

[the real slim shady]

I really have to get this off my chest...what's the deal with British people and funny hats?





It's not like they look good. They can't be all that comfortable. They're just weird. So why?

I think it's just a thing the bourgeoisie does. Like here in Belgium, there's this annual horse race and all the rich people go to the race to show of their unique/expensive hats. I don't see the appeal either.

No offense to the British but I always found that sooo ridiculous....if you want to see the more extravagant hats just search in google Ascot hats..

http://nicefun.net/userpix4/TheWild_wac ... 828_00.jpg
http://media-saver.com/wp-content/uploa ... =500&h=354

I understand the Ascot hats are somehow a joke, but the ornaments they wear to the weddings are for real...how can someone like this?
http://www.jointventurejewelry.com/blog ... nators.jpg

Ok not all british people are like that, you are looking at the upper class. They have loads of money, they are not from a generation that uses technology and stuff so they spend their money on extravagent clothes, houses and classic cars. Also it is considered fashionable amongst rich women to wear hats like that, its a way of saying to ordinary people "this hat costs more than you get paid over 3 months and i will only wear it once". Its a bit unuecessary if you ask me, but they probably think it is unecessary for me to be listening to hip hop music all the time so meh, its just point of view.

It kind of sucks that people think british people are the way you see them in the press. Either you know of us as rioters or as people that are posh. Most of us are somewhere in the middle

And eva, they are worn to horse races, weddings (for royalty (not donald glover though)), and to whatever it is that rich people do alongside other rich people

[Guess_Who]

haha I know that not all the british wear that, but I think it's kinda common there in the weddings. Anyway would be funny to imagine you wearing one of those hats..

[the real slim shady]

its only for the women, men wear tophats/nothing
i go for nothing

And it is common for rich weddings, normally its just one of those veil things