by fopower » Aug 22nd, '10, 23:27
I think generally (almost 100% of the time) when people choose to stay virgin till marriage it's due to religion. And for non-relgious people, virginity is just something that they want to lose to the 'right' person, regardless of marriage. Outside of a religious perspective, virginity is really nothing to care about.
I'm 19 and a virgin. For me it's solely because of religion. I believe in Islam and I try my best to follow it's guidelines. I don't want to lose my virginity until marriage because I think it really is something that should be saved for your life partner.
And also, I'm not the type of virgin that does everything but sex. I've actually felt uncomfortable holding a guys hand (don't make fun of me, there was alot of sexual tension in that moment)...it just didn't feel right to me. I think once you go down that path of touching, kissing and making-out, having sex doesn't seem like a big deal anymore.
As for the double standard when it comes to men and women. I think it does exist in society as a whole, however to a lesser extent than before. In my own family, I have never witnessed this double standard. In fact, girls seem to flirt with my older brother alot, and I asked him why he doesn't flirt back, and he said something similar to what Arabian Shady said, which is that he wouldn't want a guy flirting with me and eyeing me for a good time, so he wouldn't do that to another girl.
Edit: Having re-read my post, I just want to clarify that it's not like I've never shaken hands with a guy or anything. The reason I felt uncomfortable holding this guys hand was because of the romantic setting. He had asked me to got to prom with him 'as friends' and since my friends really wanted me to go to prom I said yes but told him that it wouldn't be any fun because I wouldn't dance with him- he was okay with this. So at prom, when most of my friends were on the dance floor he asked me if I wanted to take a walk in the garden at the venue that prom was held at. I said sure, but as we were walking he took my hand casually. This was when I started to feel a little wierd. I suppose I was sensing that he would make a move because pretty soon he was trying to kiss me- I say trying because I slapped him across the face when he tried to pull me towards him.
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fopower on Aug 29th, '10, 03:47, edited 5 times in total.
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