Have you ever been in love with a girl to the point...

[Maybe]

Kez is right for the most part, because love doesn't really exist.

It's a subconscious feeling our brain develops due to synaptic connections in our brain. It's 100% a chemical reaction.

On that note, yes I've been in love to that point, and still am. But I accept that love can easily shatter and disappear from existence, leaving only companionship and routine to hold together the relationship. So, it's difficult to determine whether I'm in-love, or just very comfortable and happy with the girl I'm with. Let's just say love is a fancy word for comfortable with and attracted to...

[Fleka]

Nah, but then again I have a rational mind, and more importantly, a pair of testes.

So? It is cool to not fall in love? Even if you have a rational mind, and a pair of testes, you can fall in love. I hope you will fall in love one day too, famalam, it's a great experience.

It`s cool to fall in love, but man, porn is cool too.

[Tash8]

...that you can't even watch porn without thinking about her?

was this a recent break up?

[Mr. Chambers]

Kez is right for the most part, because love doesn't really exist.

It's a subconscious feeling our brain develops due to synaptic connections in our brain. It's 100% a chemical reaction.

On that note, yes I've been in love to that point, and still am. But I accept that love can easily shatter and disappear from existence, leaving only companionship and routine to hold together the relationship. So, it's difficult to determine whether I'm in-love, or just very comfortable and happy with the girl I'm with. Let's just say love is a fancy word for comfortable with and attracted to...

yes, the chemical reactions can explain the actual levels of attraction, the same way scents, body shape, face asymmetry, ect can describe physical attraction, but theres other shit that is not explained.

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

like i said, we may know what causes the feelings, but what causes the actual physical and such reactions that goes with it.

why do different people grieve at losing loved ones differently (whether death or split)?

just sayin....

[Kez]

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

Well obviously if they stay married their whole life nobody can suggest they don't love each other. It's just most don't even manage a year.

[Tash8]

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

Well obviously if they stay married their whole life nobody can suggest they don't love each other. It's just most don't even manage a year.

You do realize people change and you can fall in and out of love with people right? I don't understand your logic behind saying that love doesn't exist because people can love more than person. (There is obviously superficial love you can't escape that, but you can't categorize all love as fake because of it)

[Kez]

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

Well obviously if they stay married their whole life nobody can suggest they don't love each other. It's just most don't even manage a year.

You do realize people change and you can fall in and out of love with people right? I don't understand your logic behind saying that love doesn't exist because people can love more than person. (There is obviously superficial love you can't escape that, but you can't categorize all love as fake because of it)

I'm sorry but I just can't accept the idea that if "love" is apparently so special and rare it's also so incredibly interchangable. It just feels like it completely cheapens it to me.

[Kez]

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

Well obviously if they stay married their whole life nobody can suggest they don't love each other. It's just most don't even manage a year.

Most marriages end before a year? You're watching too much Hollywood, boy

First of all I wasn't even really talking about marriages. Secondly why is that so far fetched? Don't matter if you been married fuckin ten years lol, you can still break up. But if they stay together their whole life, until one of them dies, the scenario which I was replying to? Yeah, obviously they're the real thing.

[Mr. Chambers]

^no, our society has made it almost "acceptable" for a divorce, and people are idiots. they're so worried about not dieing alone that they'll marry the first person that presents them with a "challenge", and when they realize, after they get past the mysterious aura they once had, there isn't much to them. Also, when people hit an obstacle in their relationship (this can also be spoken for "friendship" too), they're real quick to quit or give up.

Why do you think divorce rates weren't as high back in the days? i think that was a little to harsh, and today's loose beliefs in marriage is almost comical. people go through marriages like they go through hair cuts. It all falls down on loyalty and trust. you got to be able to look at your partner, even when you are at your highest level of rage, and still feel just as equally in love with them as pissed and be confident that even though it looks real bad now, it's all going to be worked out in the long run.

i believe 90% of the marriages today are based off of "guppy" love (its what my civil rights teacher called it). You feel guppy love towards your parents, siblings, and children, but if you pick a wisely, an actual "loving" partner is about as real as you're going to get.

just my take on love. i do believe in the whole chemical shit cuz you can't fight science, but theres some shit that just isn't explained.....

[Maybe]

Kez is right for the most part, because love doesn't really exist.

It's a subconscious feeling our brain develops due to synaptic connections in our brain. It's 100% a chemical reaction.

On that note, yes I've been in love to that point, and still am. But I accept that love can easily shatter and disappear from existence, leaving only companionship and routine to hold together the relationship. So, it's difficult to determine whether I'm in-love, or just very comfortable and happy with the girl I'm with. Let's just say love is a fancy word for comfortable with and attracted to...

yes, the chemical reactions can explain the actual levels of attraction, the same way scents, body shape, face asymmetry, ect can describe physical attraction, but theres other shit that is not explained.

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

like i said, we may know what causes the feelings, but what causes the actual physical and such reactions that goes with it.

why do different people grieve at losing loved ones differently (whether death or split)?

just sayin....

I agree completely, but to me, that isn't necessary love. We call it love, because it's the simplest explanation available, and it doesn't require a scientific breakdown.

I'd explain that situation (of a wife/husband dieing shortly after their loved-one) like this: Reliance. Like you said, they lean very heavily on one another, and a routine companionship becomes a necessity.

I'm not bothered by the idea of calling all things related to this love. It makes things easy.

[Kez]

You directly addressed most marriages barely last a year, so how can you not be 'not really talking' about them? lol

Chambers is the one who brought up marriage. I was just countering it. Marriage doesn't really mean shit, unless you're religious. And if you aren't religious, why the fuck get married really? Yeah it's a nice gesture but it doesn't actually mean shit (which actually makes it easier to divorce with no qualms.)

And no one is saying it's far-fetched It's far-fetched to say there is no such thing as true love

Well I never said that haha, I just said that most people who think they're in "love" are deluding themself.

Not to mention that Tash said it is possible to fall in and out of love. In fact, an example from real life, a friend of mine was with her boyfriend for three years and a week ago, she ended things with him. Why? She didn't feel the same because of things he did and especially didn't do.

Boo fucking hoo. As I said, the idea that you can fall out of being in love with someone just irks me. It's a copout. If you can fall out of love so easily with them, was it really as strong as you went around telling everyone when you started? If you tell that girl you love her, does that mean that the next girl you say that to you won't mean it? How can you really have loved the person you just broke up with if you broke up with them and went to tell someone else the same sentiments? It's all garbage. And I know this doesn't apply to all, but it does apply to most.

But uhh...yeah...you just sound kinda...dumb saying things the way you're saying it. Not trying to be offensive.

I'm the opposite of dumb, i'm one of the only people who aint stupid enough to think he's in "love" with any girl that looks at him sideways. (Yes I know that's exaggeration before you start, but my point is clear)

[Mr. Chambers]

Kez is right for the most part, because love doesn't really exist.

It's a subconscious feeling our brain develops due to synaptic connections in our brain. It's 100% a chemical reaction.

On that note, yes I've been in love to that point, and still am. But I accept that love can easily shatter and disappear from existence, leaving only companionship and routine to hold together the relationship. So, it's difficult to determine whether I'm in-love, or just very comfortable and happy with the girl I'm with. Let's just say love is a fancy word for comfortable with and attracted to...

yes, the chemical reactions can explain the actual levels of attraction, the same way scents, body shape, face asymmetry, ect can describe physical attraction, but theres other shit that is not explained.

as in, why do married couples who have been married their whole life , lean so heavily on one another that, when one dies, usually the other dies? How do you explain that, according to stats, most people, male or female, live shorter if they don't ever get married?

like i said, we may know what causes the feelings, but what causes the actual physical and such reactions that goes with it.

why do different people grieve at losing loved ones differently (whether death or split)?

just sayin....

I agree completely, but to me, that isn't necessary love. We call it love, because it's the simplest explanation available, and it doesn't require a scientific breakdown.

I'd explain that situation (of a wife/husband dieing shortly after their loved-one) like this: Reliance. Like you said, they lean very heavily on one another, and a routine companionship becomes a necessity.

I'm not bothered by the idea of calling all things related to this love. It makes things easy.

i rely on my truck to get me back and forth to work, but if it blows up, i will easily get over it (at least emotionally).

[Vettori]

Kez is a G ......Love is Blind. and it turns good people to Fuckin idiots.
No discussion needed. Iv'e had friends turn there back on there friends for a girls satisfaction...Friends stop being friends because the girl wants you all to herself like a selfish Unimportant fucking wierdo, who cant just hang out with you too....

I have friends where music is there passion...but they cant work on it, because said" girl " says it's not important. because she doesnt understand what PASSION is.....(friends fault for not waking the fuck up) but anyways

love is a joke....and i beleive it is a rare occasion.

lets be honest ..everyone just wants to fuck....This worlds filled with a buncha wierdo's



i think people grieve because when someone dies...You cant ever see them again I feel sad when someone i dont know Dies.. ... Period thats a really fucking sad reality. Plus human's best operate by routine...you break the routine, and your pretty much lost, because however many years you were together...you built a routine.. and now your stuck trying to fill in that void...

let me tell you my friend..that void...Can be the best thing ever if put to the right use. Music..Is what fills that void for me...not some girl who wants to nag about her fuckin bs issues and bring you down cause she has no goals all day, ..when they are irrelevant next to the real problems in life....
"this might be leaning more on a personal note"

Just my opinion, from watching and living these past 22 years. No hard feelings to those in said "Love" do your thing.

[Tash8]

I'm sorry but I just can't accept the idea that if "love" is apparently so special and rare it's also so incredibly interchangable. It just feels like it completely cheapens it to me.

It can be special, it does not mean it always is. You said it yourself that Scotty dude was crazy about one girl and then the next minute not. Love in a sexual relationship is the same as any other relationship (with the exception of unconditional) It takes time to build and solely relies on the experiences you have with someone. Just like you can fall out with a friend, you fall out with a sexual lover. People change, I mean what taste buds change every 10 years or something? Just cause at one point you two were very relate-able does not mean you will take the same path in the future. You can love and have loved more than one person, to say that you can only love one person is preposterous. There are many compatible people for me and for everyone in this world. Marriage is what you should be arguing about, that's just bullshit and an excuse to not live life alone.

[classthe_king]

Kez, you're just taking some and applying it to all.